Wednesday, May 27, 2015

Think, please, for five seconds before this comes out of your mouth, ever.

The conversation goes like this:

Person A:  Yes, I was sexually abused as a child.

Person B: I suspect your abuser was also abused.

Person B is very well meaning.  Person B is alluding to the "well known fact" that abused kids become abusers.

Person B is clearly not thinking about what they have just implied to be true about Person A.  Person B is not meaning to put Person A into that "abused kids become abusers" equation, but I can promise you, Person A is doing it.

Just don't say it.  Ever.

3 comments:

Annie said...

Damn right.

Wendy Barkman said...

Sometimes not saying anything at all is the very best. At certain points there are no right words to respond to sexual abuse.

Anonymous said...

As the saying goes..."assume" and it makes an "ass" out of "u" and "me".