Friday, July 08, 2011

Friday

So she's at the Stampede with a rotating group of friends and she's having a great time but she's cold even though you suggested she might want to take a pair of jeans along but you don't mention that because you know what? who cares if you were right, and the person who should care the least that you were right is you, because what is this? some kind of contest about who can be the rightest most often? and you could just as easily have been wrong and so what about that too?And she's taking the bus home with her friend, after the fireworks and that's going to be really late and the train is always so crowded and there was that one year when some kid got jostled under the train and so you text her "do you want a ride?" and she says "nope, we're good, thanks" and you stare at the phone for a really long time because you don't want to be pushy and controlling and inyourface, especially not with someone who has pretty much wanted to be in charge since she was five, but we've all heard the stories and we think it, we all do, whether we say it out loud or not whereweretheparents?? but you don't argue, you just say please don't walk from the bus stop by yourself and she says okay I won't and you want to ask for details but because parenting someone her age is so much more about shutting up and praying than it is about anything else, it seems, you just say thanks and Jesus keep her safe and then you think about safety and how that's a much trickier concept that you could ever have imagined and really, none of us are safe no matter how much we build up around ourselves so maybe you just shorten that.  Jesus keep her.

5 comments:

Colleen Taylor said...

Amen.

Anonymous said...

What else is new? Keep writing...you don't write enough.

Anonymous said...

Hey...where are you?

Betty JH said...

I love this post. Just so you know.

joanna said...

Glad I'm not the only one (extremely similiar experience this stampede, and so glad that someone else struggles with the letting go and checking in).

Hope you are all having a great summer.